Abide In Me-Refresh Your Soul Week 2

“I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

We are refreshed when we abide. 

What does that even mean? Simply this: tenaciously clinging  to Him. In the moments you feel like giving up, you want to crawl back under the covers and wish the day away, you want to “numb out” sitting in front of the computer, fill the pain with food, or watch TV, He calls, quietly, “Abide in Me.” 

It is in our own strength we fall.

Our BEST as women is when we are holding fast, holding desperately, to Him.

When we realize how poor we are, we can come before Him and ask Him to fill us, refresh us, give us something to pour out onto the precious people we love.

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 5:3

When we mess up, we shouldn’t berate ourselves for the sin we committed, the angry word spoken, the rolling of the eyes, the exhausted sigh. That’s not the root problem.  The root problem is: we departed from the Source of true life, presuming we could manage on our own.

Instead of feeling bad about failure, instead of voicing our grief in this way, “Sorry Lord I messed up, I’ll do better next time“, what we must say is, “Sorry Lord I left your side. Help ME!”

The most spiritual prayer for ourselves we can pray is two words, “help me.”

The problem isn’t failure, but instead, failure to rely on the Source of refreshment.

We should be compelled to come to the Lord desperate for His power and work in our lives, to refresh our souls, begging Him to give us what we lack. Choosing moment by moment to trust in His unfailing love and resting in His power for each decision, each word spoken, each task completed. We can do it on our own for a while, but in the end we feel exhausted, stressed, and depleted.

Andrew Murray speaks to this in his book, Abide with Christ, “…unspeakable danger of our giving ourselves to work for God, and to bear fruit, with but little of the true abiding, the wholehearted losing of ourselves in Christ and His life.”

He gives to the hungry, the poured out, the poor in spirit.

He gives.

Live in the truth of your “poorness”, don’t pretend it is anything else than what it is, give up the illusion of your own strength.

Begin today, this moment, to say this, “In this moment of exhaustion, of weariness, I cleave to You. Help Me!”

I am slowly learning to do this moment by moment in my day, and it, HE, is making all the difference.


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  • Lexi Jones

    This was much needed. I am such a weak person, and I fall so often. I needed a reminder that GOD is my strength, and He provides the ability to see the day through.
    Thank you for sharing!! Wonderful thoughts.

    • Joy

      I am so weak too, so we are in this together. :)

  • lmurrell80

    hey joy! this is so good! this is exactly what God showed me this past year….i would try harder and try harder the next day and try harder the next day…and each time He graciously let me fail until He brought me to the point where i realized i. can’t. do. it. but, He can! and He does! and i need Him, not me trying harder! really enjoying this series…you need to write a book about this topic!!!!!

    • Joy

      Same here. Sadly, I would try and try as well. So thankful that the Lord is patient with us, aren’t you?? It has taken me this long to finally BEGIN to understand! :) As far as a book….you never know, but right now, I am just trying to be faithful to write on my blog! :)

  • Joelle

    Yes, yes, yes! Thank you for putting this into such beautiful writing! This is exactly what God has been showing me lately! :)

    • Joy

      I am so glad it blessed you, that HE blessed you today. Thanks for commenting. :)

  • Lynnebee

    I remember a pastor sharing on these verses and saying “if we are not abiding in Him, we are abiding in something else” Thank you for sharing :-)

    • Joy

      That is a good word. I am writing that in my journal. Thanks!!

  • Dayna

    Our preacher was teaching yesterday on Psalm 23 and using those passages to remind us of how David clung to Him and allowed God to do things with His life that he would not have been physically capable of on his own. Are we truly clinging to the Good Shepherd?

    • Joy

      Wow. Good thoughts. Much to ponder in looking at David’s life. Thank you.

  • Lou Ann

    Very good. I especially liked the thought of our admitting we are poor linked with “poor in spirit” and the blessing Jesus promises. Lovely!

    • Joy

      Thanks Lou Ann.

  • JoAnn

    Thanks so much for another thought-provoking post, and also the e- book! I am so happy to have that because I often went back to some of those posts you had written for help and encouragement. God bless your week!

    • Joy

      Glad you found the ebook! I am going to be announcing it tomorrow, but wanted to make sure it worked first! Thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/KimAndHerCoffee Kim…and Her Coffee

    I love this! I’ve recently realized that when I’m worn out and tired, I’m lazily “numbing out” by sitting in front of a screen. So true that this is the time to call out to the Lord! Love this!!!

    • Joy

      Me too, Kim, me too. Numbing out feels so good in the moment, doesn’t it?!

  • Kendra

    Well, you certainly can’t add anything to that! So true and such a GREAT reminder. Thank you so much! I’ll be focusing on abiding and giving of myself more today as I interact with my kids and husband because I read this post. Thanking God for you today!

    • Kendra

      and I have already cried out for help more than once…:)

      • Joy

        Me too, Kendra. I am crying out for help a WHOLE lot!

  • Kendra

    I very much needed this today, Thank you. And thank Jehovah God for speaking through you this morning so that I could hear it.

    • Kendra

      Oh my! Two Kendras in a row. What are the odds!?!? ;-)

    • Joy

      Oh that gave me chills, Kendra. I am humbled to think the the Almighty would use little ol’ me to speak through. Praise to Him.

  • Carrie in Spokane

    Thank you so much for sharing this. The Lord used you today to minister to my weary heart!

    • Joy

      I am so glad. :) I love Spokane, by the way! You are a northwest girl like me! :)

  • http://www.joyfilleddays.com/ Sarah Beals

    This truly is the “one thing”…the sitting by Jesus feet and being still long enough to take in and commune with him. So rare in our hurried culture. Loved this.

    • Joy

      Oh Sarah, were we separated at birth? I feel like you “get” me. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/christina.yerke.9 Christina Yerke

    Love this idea, Joy! I am going to begin my days by asking the Lord to help me and fill me with his grace!

    • Joy


  • http://twitter.com/graceformoms Jessica Wolstenholm

    It seems like all I can muster these days is “help me.” I am so thankful for a graceful God who answers even our most desperate plea for help. We don’t have to ask eloquently. We simply need to ask and then stay close. Thank you for this. Been visiting here lately and wanted to say thank you for being a champion of grace. Blessings to you Joy!

    • Joy

      Yes, exactly, Jessica. you said it so well. We don’t have to be eloquent. Wish I had learned that a long time ago. :)

  • Alexis, A Moment with M.O.M.

    We should be compelled to come to the Lord desperate for His power and work in our lives, to refresh our souls, begging Him to give us what we lack.

    Yes!! Thank you for this, thank you for encouraging others.

    ~Alexis on behalf of everyone at A Moment with M.O.M.

  • Katie

    “Sorry Lord I messed up, I’ll do better next time“, what we must say is, “Sorry Lord I left your side. Help ME!”…love this perspective, thank you. Been clinging to Deuteronomy 30:20 this week, “so that you may Love the Lord your God, listen to His voice, and HOLD FAST TO HIM. For the Lord is your life and He will give you many years in the land he swore to give to your fathers Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

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  • Lauren_onebrightcorner

    “Help me” is a prayer I need to pray more! Thank you so much for this reminder to abide in the midst of a world focused on performing!