As we conclude this series, I just want to say how much fun this has been for me! I have loved every minute of this wonderful journey! We have talked about the significance of motherhood, the obstacles that we face, and the 3 C’s of motherhood.

So, as we look at the big job of mothering, I want you to leave you with two things:

First, realize that failure is inevitable. Since we are all sinners, we will all fail.  We have hope that we are in the process of being changed, but we will still mess up.

“Once you’ve been freed from the expectation that you should be able for be a wonderful mother {on your own}, your heart response will be: I know that I’ve failed to be the kind of mother He wants me to be, but that’s why I need a Savior, and it’s why my kids need one, too. Thank you, Lord, that you’ve given me your perfect record, and that even though I sin, I am accounted perfectly righteous before you.  Please forgive me and help me respond to this great gift you’ve given in faith and grateful obedience. I trust you to work in me.” -Elyse Fitzpatrick, Because He Loves Me

Second, we cannot predict the outcome of our labors.  But we can choose to embrace our calling and faithfully obey the Lord in what He has given us to do, and rest knowing that we have done what has been asked of us.

” The path of obedience is the way to blessing.  We have only to do as the servants were commanded at the marriage feast in Cana, to fill the water pots with water, and we may safely leave it to the Lord to turn that water into wine.“ Mark Chanski- Womanly Dominion

So, fill those water pots.  Embrace mothering.  Enjoy it, let Him turn your water into wine, and leave the results and your children in the Lord’s hands.  

They are safer there anyway.  

Here is the entire series:

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The 3rd C is Continual, Competent Teaching!

I know how it is when you have little, little ones.  You don’t want to say it out loud, but some days are just downright bo-ring.

Not that there isn’t plenty to do, there is.  There is cleaning, doing dishes, making meals, and of course, the changing of diapers, ad nauseum.  And all of the sudden, the glow of motherhood meets reality and you’d give anything for something exciting to change up the routine, right?!

I remember when Britton and Hannah were little, I would think up some item that we needed from Target, and then bundle everyone up, just to go and cruise the aisles with a popcorn and a big Diet Coke.  Is that wrong? No, not at all!

Sometimes, though, we WANT to be intentional mamas and we just need some good ideas on how to fill our day! And so, here are some simple ways to teach your kids all throughout the day.

1.  Bible Teaching- let His Word be always on your lips.  This can be done formally and informally.  ”You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you rise up and when you lie down.”  Deut. 6

2. Read, read, read! Go to the library, fill up a big bag, and have fun!

• Tsh shares a great list of preschool books here.  These will get you started!
• A list of 1,000 great books…this should keep you busy!

3. Arts and crafts

• Amanda at Impress Your Kids has so many great ideas, you’ll have ideas forever!

4. Cooking (yes! have them help you in the kitchen!)

• Janelle from Comfy in the Kitchen has lots of kid-friendly recipes to try!
• Our Best Bites has a whole section on cooking with kids!

5. Nature walks

• Try a Nature Scavenger Hunt
•  just have fun playing outdoors together

6.  Chore Teaching- setting the table, folding the towels, counting out silverware, pouring water

• Here are some great chore sticks to make!

7.  Manners Teaching- make it game, asking to be excused, saying please and thank you

• Here is a list of 25 manners every child should know

8.  Speak up- teaching them to speak up for their faith from a young age

If you incorporate each of these things into your day, in say, 30 minute increments, add in meals and a nap or two, and you have your whole day planned! These are not things to add burden or stress to your day, but just some simple ideas to teach your kiddos all day long!

   Click here to download the printable.

 What are your best ideas or websites to share? I’d love to hear your favorites!

Here’s a list of all the past posts in the series:

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Number two of the three C’s is Consistent Training, but only after Constant Love!

Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

When talking about training children, often we want a good three-step program. This is not that, and here is why.  We mamas needs to be at the feet of our Savior to truly know how to train our children’s hearts.

We need to get our directives from Him, not a formula.  Our training should come through searching His Word, relying on the Holy Spirit, bathing our situation in prayer, and resting in His strength and grace.

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33

“Abide in Me and I in you.  As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.” John 15:5

“Grace based parenting is a heart-acitvated plan that takes it’s cues from a daily walk with Jesus Christ.” Tim Kimmel, Grace Based Parenting

Train your children towards first time obedience

Work towards training your kids to obey “all the way, right away, and with a happy heart.”

 ”Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  Honor your father and mother-which is the first commandment with a promise- that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6:1-3

“Correction is about reaching your child’s heart….The heart is fallen and sinful (we want to sin), but God changes hearts by His grace to respond to him, and that is the purpose of biblical discipline-to train the hearts of your child to respond to God and His grace.  Paul told Titus that the ‘grace of God that brings us salvation’ also ‘teaches us to say No to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives.’ (Titus 2:11-12)”- Clay Clarkson, Educating the Whole Hearted Child

Consistency, Consistency, Consistency- 

Simply let your yes be yes and your no be no (Matthew 5:37).  Stick to what you say and follow through.  Don’t threaten and don’t give in to whining or fits.

“Children can be trained in almost any direction. Their natural tendencies may be so curbed and guided as no longer to show themselves in disagreeable prominence. It is a parent’s privilege, and it is a parent’s duty, to make his children, by God’s blessing, to be and to do what they should be and do, rather than what they would like to be and do.” H.Clay Trumbull, Hints on Child Training

Reach their heart, not just their behavior

Don’t settle for outward behavior. As much as you are able, seek to draw out the why’s of your child’s disobedience.  Connect your heart to theirs, seek to understand them, give them grace, and train them in the way they should go.  Love them in the midst of training and discipline!

“Every way we try to make our kids good that isn’t rooted in the good news of the life, death, resurrection is damnable, crushing, despair-breeding, Pharisee-producing law.” – Elyse Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace

And the Lord said to him, “Now you Pharisees cleanse the outside of the cup and of the dish, but inside you are full of greed and wickedness.” -Luke 11:39

Speak God’s Word into them

Scripture is useful for all things, so get those Bible verses into your child’s head and heart from a young age!

“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17

Tell them of Christ’s work on the Cross…tell them over and over and over!

“Our being reconciled to God by the Cross should be the message of our parenting.”- Elyse Fitzpatrick, Give Them Grace

Pray with them and pray over them

Prayer is often an untapped weapon!  Show your kids the power of prayer specifically as it pertains to their lives!

 Some of my favorite resources on correction and discipline:

•  Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick
• Wise Words for Moms by Ginger Plowman (a calendar-like chart with offenses, heart questions to ask and Scripture to help teach and train)
• Making a Peace Place: Godly Anger Management for Children an amazing post by Ann Voskamp, one I use and has revolutionized my parenting!
• The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
• The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
• Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Ted Tripp

Here is a list of the posts so far in the Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood series:

1. The Beginning
2. The Significance- Part1
3. The Significance- Part2
4. The Obstacles- Part1 
5. The Obstacles- Part2
6. The Obstacles- Part3
 7. Anger and Patience
8. The 3 C’s of Motherhood

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I want to introduce you to a beautiful Titus 2 woman, Carol Graham, although most people call her Mama Graham.  A doctor’s wife and mother to 5 grown children {and nearly grown grandchildren} she has a love for God’s Word, teaching and training the next generation, and a HUGE heart for hospitality. {She had this amazing cabin built on her land for missionaries to stay in and we have been blessed to live in it when we visit. She stocks the fridge and even leaves restaurant gift cards for each week so that we can eat out.  Then, she takes me and all the kids clothes shopping for the next FOUR years!!!}

She has discipled countless women in her home on the topics of marriage and motherhood.  She is such a beautiful example of a godly woman and I know that her legacy will be carried on for MANY generations.  Her daughter, Carrie, is one of my dear friends, and you NEED to read her blog, Carrie’s Busy Nothings!! She is witty, wise, and completely fun.

2 years ago when I was home on furlough, I asked her advice on what to share with a group of young moms.  She shared the 3 C’s with me.  It is simple, memorable, and Biblical.  So, here are the 3 C’s with ideas and practical tips added by me.  Thank you, Mama Graham, for investing in the next generation!

The first C in the 3 C’s is Constant Love.

“It’s in the midst of the trials and challenges of motherhood that the command comes to love our children.  Once again the Greek word phileo is used to describe the kind of love we are to show.  As with our husbands, we are to love our children with a tender, affectionate, and passionate love. Although many mothers are committed to caring sacrificially for their children, they sometimes neglect to enjoy them. They fulfill the responsibilities of motherhood but overlook the pleasures.“- Carolyn Mahaney, Feminine Appeal

It’s what a child truly needs from us as mothers!

1 Corinthians 13 says this,

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.”

Visible love is the only love a child can understand. You can’t tell a child, I love you, and expect them to believe it if your actions don’t back it up. Fill up your days not just with time spent with your children, but time loving and enjoying your children.

 Constant Love. Yes, but how?

• Smile. Really smile at them.
• Enjoy. Take time to revel in the wonder that is your child.
• Give them your heart.
• Engage.
• Dance.
• Play.
• Sing.
• Listen to their dreams.
• Whisper in their ear.
• Bake together.
• Goof off together.
• Make memories together.

“The mother who reaches the heartfelt needs of her children by helping them feel loved and secure, by believing in their dreams, by noticing when they stray and gently steering them back in the right direction, and by teaching them what they need to know to live full and meaningful lives accomplishes a great work for the Lord.” -Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood

Here are some additional posts I have written on this topic:

• Simple Tips for Engaging with Your Child Today
• The Ministry of Listening
• Encouraging Words
• A Note of Encouragement

Here is a list of the posts so far in the Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood series:

And here are the printables:

 We will tackle the other 2 C’s next!  Thoughts to share?

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When we began this series, so many of you said that the biggest struggle you face in mothering is not getting angry and along with that learning to be patient.

I am certainly no expert, and I only hope and pray that the resources that I give you are an encouragement. First off, as you begin to see the significance of mothering and embrace that, and then work at overcoming the 3 obstacles we have talked about, these things should significantly cut down on the struggle.

But, what about when you’ve done all of those things and you still feel like exploding? My best advice is to be constantly in prayer.  My prayer life has grown significantly since becoming a mama! I realize now that I have no strength of my own and everything I need in the moment comes from him.

So what do you do in the moment, when you are angry and want to take it out on your child? Give grace in the moment. I wrote this post for The Better Mom a few months ago and using this as a guideline in the moment of my frustration has greatly helped me!

So, I decided to make it into a printable and the amazing Beth from Beth Stone Studio created this printable complete with some of her original artwork! I hope you love it as much as I do!

 Click here to download the printable

And the best series I have ever seen on the topic of anger is from my friend, Christy at One Fun Mom.  She has lots of posts, practical advice, and Biblical help for those of us who struggle with anger.  Go read her series, Anger and Children!

Next week, we are going to tackle the 3 C’s of Mothering! There will be lots of practical help and I hope you will join me!

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Here is a list of the posts so far in the Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood series:

And here are the printables:

“How we spend our days, is of course, how we spend our lives.” Annie Dillard, An American Childhood

We’ve been talking obstacles, and here is the next one:

Obstacle #3- We are too busy.

When my oldest, Britton, was just a wee one, I was given a tape {yes, a tape!} on the seasons of motherhood by Beverly Bradley.  That tape changed the course of my mothering from then ’til now.  She told how she was a highly involved pastor’s wife, serving on committees, heading a homeschool group, speaking out for the unborn at rallies, etc.

One day, as she was in the midst of serving all of these other people, her son asked why they were always busy and she rarely had time to spend playing with him.  It broke her heart. The next day she went and resigned from all the good ministry. Were they good, important things? Yes, but she did not want to waste the precious time she had to invest in her kid’s hearts.

Those ministries were better left, she decided, for another season in life. She went home to tell her son what she had done. He was already in bed, so she rubbed his back and told of her decision. He started weeping and whispered quietly, thank you.

I wonder how many of our little ones would voice the same thing if they could?

We’re too busy, so we miss time in the Word (obstacle #1). And, when we slow down, it is easier to keep from getting overwhelmed (obstacle #2).

“The season of young children is a time to refrain. Refrain from most outside activities, even some church activities. Now is a time to be faithful in discipline…it’s the springtime of mothering. Redeem the time, don’t waste it.” -Sono Harris

When we hurry, we tend to get impatient, and leave little room in our life for simple joys or spontaneity. Somehow we have bought into the lie that being home just isn’t good enough.

Whether it’s fun activities, ministry, or general good things, we have to learn to say no. And saying no can also mean limiting the computer, phone, and social media.  It’s important to leave margin in our lives to spend focused on hearing the hearts of our children.

We have to un-hurry.

“Some of us must address the issue of hurry if we are to live the grace-filled lives God calls us to live.  So take a deep breath, let it out slowly, pause to pray, and enjoy an un-hurried day.” Glynnis Whitwer, An Unhurried Life

Yes, you say, but then I’ll be bored! I hear you.  If you hang tight with me through this series, I have lots of ideas of how to fill your time intentionally.

But my children like to get out! I understand, but just because my kids want to eat cookies doesn’t mean I give cookies anytime they want. Too much of a good thing is, well, too much.

Am I saying stay home and never go anywhere? Not at all! We just have to be careful that we are not over-scheduling our lives, and missing out on the opportunities to enjoy the small things. You know deep in your heart where that balance lies. 

“By walking away from a busy, accomplishment-oriented society into a quiet world of deep relationship, service, and home-life, I will establish a far-reaching legacy that extends throughout many generations.” -Laura Booz, Blogger Behave
Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• Am I rushing from one thing to the next?
• Do I have space in my life to just enjoy my kids?
• Do I feel stressed if I have a day free, with nowhere to go and nothing to do?
• Do I have a hard time saying no to things, especially when they are good things like ministry or another church activity?
• Do I secretly feel that being home isn’t enough?
• Do I have trouble sleeping, thinking of all the things I have to do the next day?

Click here to download the printable

Related post: Making Family Your Primary Ministry at The Better Mom

What are your thoughts? Do you feel like your life is too busy?

We are talking obstacles this week! Yesterday we talked about overcoming the obstacle of forgetting to fill up on Living Water.  And the 2nd obstacle that’s keeps us from fully embracing a heart for motherhood is…..

Obstacle #2- We feel overwhelmed.

Have you ever felt that way as a mother? Ha, I can’t remember the last time I didn’t feel overwhelmed!

The good news is that we don’t need to do it ourselves.

2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness. Most gladly, therefore, I would rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

2 Corinthians 3:5, “Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything form ourselves, but our adequacy is from God.”

Yes, the calling is high, but He has given us Himself!  Are you weary?

Matthew 11:28, “Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.”

Isaiah 40:29, “He gives strength to the weary and to him who lacks might, He increases power…”

The Lord loves mothers. He loves you and He loves your children. He wants you to fall into His arms and find rest. He is El Shaddai- our refuge and our strength.

He wants to comfort you, care for you,  and strengthen you. He wants to whisper words of love into your ear and give you the strength to carry on.

This isn’t about striving harder and doing or being more. This is you releasing yourself to Him and watching Him take over. It’s exhausting, I know. I’m not minimizing this. Take care of yourself, but also realize that motherhood is all about sacrifice….dying to ourselves. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed because we feel that it isn’t fair that we have to give up so much, and we do.

So, during those times where we feel hopelessly overwhelmed what can keep us going?

 ”Inspirational historical models may provide a temporary enthusiasm, but a mother of dominion needs something more. Otherwise, the grueling day and night demands of crying infants, filthy bottoms, vomit-soaked blankets, strong-willed naughtiness, physical exhaustion, dull routine, deferred gratifications, lack of recognition, cultural criticism, and personal disillusionment will bring the work of her hands to a grinding halt.

There she sits, exhausted on the edge of her bed, her face in her hands, wondering, ‘Where is the glory in this?’ She needs something more empowering to keep her going.

 She needs to gain and maintain the deep conviction of the glory, honor, and nobility of selfless service. This she finds at the foot of the cross, looking up to the One who earned for Himself, ‘the name that is above every name’ by emptying Himself, taking the form of a bond servant. There she beholds her Savior, who mopped up the damning vomit of her own sin with the precious sponge of His perfect life and atoning death. The love of Christ constrains and compels her to press on. The Spirit of Christ empowers her.” Womanly Dominion, pg. 120

So, today when you feel overwhelmed (and you will), take it to Him lay your burdens at His feet, and ask for His strength to carry on.

Are you weary? Do you feel overwhelmed? Share your thoughts in the comments! And come back tomorrow for Obstacle #3 and this week’s printable!

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Here is a list of the posts so far in the Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood series:

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We started this series at the beginning {a very good place to start} and last week we talked about the significance of motherhood and then discussed it again.  I hope you are enjoying the printables too {week 1 and week 2}!

So we have the big vision, we understand the significance of mothering, but why is it so difficult to live that way in the

mundane-ness of life?

This week we are going to look at 3 big obstacles that keep us from fully embracing our job as mother.  Three things that hinder our ability to see clearly and enjoy the job that we have been given. {I’m sure there are more, but these are my top three!}

The first one is this:

Obstacle #1 – Forgetting to fill up on Living Water

Girls, we need to be in the Word…daily. I don’t want this to be a guilt trip thing, but I do want you to take it seriously. Mothering is going to take every single thing we’ve got, and quite frankly, it is going to take MORE than we’ve got. That is why we need to be in His Word and sitting at His feet every day. We need to feed our children out of our abundance.  SOOO many mamas write to me and tell me they just don’t have time for a quiet time.  And you know what? If you are looking for absolute quiet, you are probably right!! But if you are willing to get creative, I promise that you have the time to fill up on Living Water!

Yes, you ask, but how? My day is already full from dawn to dusk, and I just can’t wake up any earlier.

I realize that during the season of young mothering, it is so difficult to have a “quiet time.”  So, here are some suggestions:

- Keep a Bible handy wherever you “hang out” most. Whether it’s next to the nursing chair, the bathroom, the kitchen….wherever you can steal a minute or two. Read a few verses and allow them to speak to your heart. Then meditate on the verse as you go about your work. Say it out loud to your children. Write it on an index card, and keep it with you as you go about your day.

- Pray as you cook, or clean, or wipe noses. The Bible encourages us to “pray continually”. And, yes, there will be interruptions, but I dare say that the Lord understands, since He is the One who gave you those interruptions!!

- Listen to the Bible online. This is my favorite thing to do. The kids and I listen to the Daily Audio Bible every day. I love it! In one year, we will have listened to the entire Bible! It is soothing and simple.  Try it!

- Put on quiet worship music. Choose music that puts you in a calm, worshipful mood. Choose music that helps you express your heart of worship as you sing along. My favorites are; Peace Like a River, Glory Revealed, Fernando Ortega, and Seeds Family Worship. I find that all of these minister to my heart and the hearts of my children.

Saturate yourself in God’s Word. It will change your mothering. It will change your heart as you seek Him for wisdom for life with little ones.

Give to your children out of the overflow of your relationship with the Lord. Let God’s love pour out, spill out, ooze out, and touch your children’s hearts. Now, go get in the Word!!

Two great resources for studying God’s Word are:

1. Savoring Living Water E-Book

2. Good Morning Girls

Come back tomorrow for Obstacle #2 and Wednesday for #3 and this week’s printable! If you haven’t already, I invite you to subscribe!

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On Monday we started talking about the significance of mothering.

It is hard to see the big picture when we are in the middle of the mess of everyday, isn’t it? Um, yes, and a hearty AMEN. But, stop with me for just a quick second and let’s take a look….and get inspired!

Imagine with me for a moment what would happen if we truly understood and embraced our job as mothers. What if we chose to look at ourselves as world changers? What if in His strength and by His might, we could truly change this world for the better by the way we raise our children?

What if we looked not just at the here and now (the dirty dishes, diapers, messes, task after task), but at the future? And not only our child’s future, but the future of many generations to come?  Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not grow weary while doing good, in due season we shall reap if we faint not. ”

“She [a mother] is handling never-dying souls. She’s daily conducting heart surgery on eternal spirts whose forever destinies are influenced most profoundly by the hands that rock their cradles, wipe their noses…. open their Bibles, prepare their after-school snacks, and turn off their bedroom lights. Those motherly hands are molding characters which will become men and women who will turn the world upside down either for good or for evil. Now that’s a job that counts. ” – Mark Chanski, Womanly Dominion

It’s a big calling….a calling that will last forever!

I love these thoughts:

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Throughout history we can see examples of how one woman greatly influenced and even changed history by embracing motherhood.

One example of this is Sarah Edwards, wife of Jonathan Edwards.  Sarah supported her husband and his very long works hours and devoted herself whole-heartedly to the raising of their 8 children. And what was her legacy?

Throughout the generations can be traced: 11 college presidents, 65 professors, 100 lawyers, 30 judges, 66 physicians, 80 holders of public office, 3 mayors of large cities, 3 state governors, 1 controller of the US treasury, 3 US senators, 1 Vice-President of the US .

Now, hear me out on this one. I’m not saying that big important professions is the goal. A long line of passionate-for-Jesus anything would have been equally impressive.  This list is simply showing just how far-reaching our mothering can be!! We are raising mighty arrows for the Kingdom….arrows that will go from our house and shoot out to the world for generations to come!

Psalm 127:5, ” Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.”

 Now, I want you to take a few moments and think all of this through.  As you read this, what is the Lord speaking to your heart? What is your desire or your vision for your home and mothering? Take a few minutes in a quiet place with a cup of something hot and sit quietly and dream.  Then write out what your vision looks like.

Click here to download the Vision Printable

I know what you are thinking. Great. Wonderful. That sounds so nice. I like the ideal, but I am so far from that ideal in my everyday life. Where I live, my everyday existence is far from victorious. My day to day involves lots of poopy diapers, sippy cups, laundry, and grubby fingers. How can I live intentionally when I can’t even get a shower?

I’m so glad you asked because that is exactly where we will begin next week! Next Monday we will look at 3 big obstacles we face as mamas.  

I hope you’ll join me.  As always, I invite you subscribe so you don’t miss anything! 

Here is a link to all previous posts in this series.

What do you think so far? I’d love to hear your thoughts!