Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood- Obstacle #2

We are talking obstacles this week! Yesterday we talked about overcoming the obstacle of forgetting to fill up on Living Water.  And the 2nd obstacle that’s keeps us from fully embracing a heart for motherhood is…..

Obstacle #2- We feel overwhelmed.

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Have you ever felt that way as a mother? Ha, I can’t remember the last time I didn’t feel overwhelmed!

The good news is that we don’t need to do it ourselves.

2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness. Most gladly, therefore, I would rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

2 Corinthians 3:5, “Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything form ourselves, but our adequacy is from God.”

Yes, the calling is high, but He has given us Himself!  Are you weary?

Matthew 11:28, “Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.”

Isaiah 40:29, “He gives strength to the weary and to him who lacks might, He increases power…”

The Lord loves mothers. He loves you and He loves your children. He wants you to fall into His arms and find rest. He is El Shaddai- our refuge and our strength.

He wants to comfort you, care for you,  and strengthen you. He wants to whisper words of love into your ear and give you the strength to carry on.

This isn’t about striving harder and doing or being more. This is you releasing yourself to Him and watching Him take over. It’s exhausting, I know. I’m not minimizing this. Take care of yourself, but also realize that motherhood is all about sacrifice….dying to ourselves. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed because we feel that it isn’t fair that we have to give up so much, and we do.

So, during those times where we feel hopelessly overwhelmed what can keep us going?

 ”Inspirational historical models may provide a temporary enthusiasm, but a mother of dominion needs something more. Otherwise, the grueling day and night demands of crying infants, filthy bottoms, vomit-soaked blankets, strong-willed naughtiness, physical exhaustion, dull routine, deferred gratifications, lack of recognition, cultural criticism, and personal disillusionment will bring the work of her hands to a grinding halt.
There she sits, exhausted on the edge of her bed, her face in her hands, wondering, ‘Where is the glory in this?’ She needs something more empowering to keep her going.
 She needs to gain and maintain the deep conviction of the glory, honor, and nobility of selfless service. This she finds at the foot of the cross, looking up to the One who earned for Himself, ‘the name that is above every name’ by emptying Himself, taking the form of a bond servant. There she beholds her Savior, who mopped up the damning vomit of her own sin with the precious sponge of His perfect life and atoning death. The love of Christ constrains and compels her to press on. The Spirit of Christ empowers her.” Womanly Dominion, pg. 120

So, today when you feel overwhelmed (and you will), take it to Him lay your burdens at His feet, and ask for His strength to carry on.

Are you weary? Do you feel overwhelmed? Share your thoughts in the comments! And come back tomorrow for Obstacle #3 and this week’s printable!

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Here is a list of the posts so far in the Cultivating a Heart for Motherhood series:

1. The Beginning
2. The Significance- Part1
3. The Significance- Part2
4. The Obstacles- Part1

 And here are the printables:

1. Week 1
2. Week 2 

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  • Sara J

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  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jamie-Williams/1260722211 Jamie Williams

    There are times in the day when I feel overwhelmed. I am trying to learn to take a step back and realize that this is my season in motherhood. I have two small children, 2 1/2 and a 5 month old. I am in constant reminder that there are seasons in motherhood and this is my season to care for the little children. I can’t do all the things I want to do and I have to sacrifice that knowing that we can do it, just not at this time. I have also come to the understanding not to rush through this season, to enjoy it, to embrace it, to cherish it. I have learned to pray, especially when I am feeling overwhelmed. I took care of my sick mother for 13 1/2 years and that was also a different season in my life. It brought me so many times to my knees, but it also taught me love, patience, understanding, empathy, compassion . . . I used to look at it as a burden early on, and as the years went by I embraced it, it was one of the greatest lesson from God I have ever been given. Thank you Lord for the seasons in my life and I promise you that I will call to you when I am overwhelmed and you will calm me and I will continue and love every minute of it. Amen.

  • mikelisafischer

    Strong-willed naughtiness? Check. I am overwhelmed simply because every step in my day is a battle and it’s exhausting.

    • http://thechuppies.blogspot.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

      Oh how I could relate to this with one of our crew…
      That’s how last week felt with our 2 year old.
      Praying for little hearts to soften and for God to intervene and create a desire to obey.

  • http://thechuppies.blogspot.com/ Kara @ The Chuppies

    I’m thankful for this series Joy :)
    Love that line…
    “The love of Christ constrains and compels her to press on”
    For me that often translates– “Pray and then do-the-next-right-thing”

  • Anonymous

    Dying to ourselves is INDEED the antidote to feeling overwhelmed. I feel so overwhelmed, so often, Joy. Yesterday was not my most glorious home school day. I don’t know if this relates, but when I was preparing for the birth of #5, I told myself, “Don’t say ‘I can’t do this,’ or ‘I’m going to die!’” It simply isn’t true, and it only makes the sense of hopelessness appear more real, when in reality, God gives us all we need for whatever he calls us to. So…in motherhood (or homeschooling, etc.), I’m trying not to speak, “I can’t do this!” out loud when I’m overwhelmed…when it simply isn’t true. Thanks for today’s post!

  • Lisa Littlewood

    A timely post for me today…”Sometimes we feel overwhelmed because we feel it is unfair that we have to give up as much as we do…” Wow…does that hit the nail on the head…and then add feeling selfish on top of it for thinking that way! I will press onward…keep praying…keep reading the word and be reminded that it IS all worthwhile…thank you for the encouraging words.

  • Shawna

    Overwhelmed is me!!!! And because I feel overwhelmed ALWAYS I then badger myself. I am my own worst enemy. This is the argument that goes thru my head a few times a day. I lack patience and because I lack I’m not faithful enough. If I’m not faithful enough I’m not being a witness to my children. If I’m not a witness to my children of God’s goodness, love and mercy, I’m putting hellions into the world. Those hellions will annoy a society. I am causing chaos. I gotta change. I think I’m gonna use 2 Corinthians 12:9 to be my new mantra. I really want God fearing children. Thanks!

  • sarah

    Yes I am weary and frequently overwhelmed, but I guess that’s probably good if it forces us to rely on Jesus. If we were strutting along fine in our own strength, we wouldn’t be living in His power and strength. I know the days when I don’t surrender myself into His hands are so different to the ones when I tell Him that I NEED Him and can’t do it without Him, and not in a good way!
    Thanks Joy, for pointing us back to Jesus. I know it’s the best place to be looking for help.

  • Shonda Knowlton

    I feel overwhelmed when I pile too much on my already full plate. I’m working on cutting back on lots to focus on what is truly important. Even then I feel overwhelmed with just what I have been given by God to do, but I know I can trust him to carry me through.

  • Dayna

    I’m so glad I stayed up a few more minutes to read this!! Thank you for your encouragement and reminder to lay it all on Christ. I have just about spent all of my energy this week and it’s only Wednesday, and this was a wonderful end to a long and tiring day. I’m just so thankful that God led me to your blog months ago.

  • JoLynn Holmwood

    Yes, I am weary and overwhelmed more times than I’d like to admit. I only have one little 2 year old and often feel horribly that with just one child I find myself feeling this way more than I ever imagined I would pre-motherhood. Your advice is absolutely spot on though. The other day was a day filled with “why’s” and tantrums and just when I thought I could not take one more whine directed my way, I knelt down to my daughter’s eye level and said, “Mommie is becoming frustrated right now and needs to go into her bedroom to calm down. I’ll be out in a couple of minutes.” She of course followed me to the door but (with clenched fists) I calmly repeated myself and told her I was going to close the door. She was o.k. with it. No melt down – wheeeeww. Once inside my room, I stood still and just poured out my frustration to the Lord and asked him to remove the negative energy from me and replace it with his grace and love. I waited until I felt as though He said, “Alright, return to your daughter now.” And that is just what I did. It worked wonders for us both! She was sitting quietly on the couch awaiting my return and we were both able to carry on with our afternoon with more patience than earlier in the day. Praise God! He is the ultimate provider.

  • http://www.gracetags.com/ Janelle@GraceTags

    I often feel that way also. However, I don’t have to feel that way. It’s my fault that I do. Because I have a great support system available to me when I need them. I just need to learn how to ask for help more often.

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  • Mnjerseygirl

    Just got all caught up on this series last night while taking a bath:) Here is my struggle with feeling overwhelmed-it’s the visuals for me. If I try to let go and not feel so overwhelmed it’s still very difficult for me because I can SEE the piles of laundry that need to be finished or I can SEE how the floor needs swept or I can SEE the piles of papers that need to be attended to. I try to set the bar lower, but it’s difficult. Those visuals can really make me unsettled and extremely stressed out and overwhelmed. I try to hide them or not look at them, but I know they are still there:) I am getting better at asking God for help, but the visuals are tough to ignore. Anyone else feel this way? Have suggestions on what to do?

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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/YN7JUR4UX7SYDHKEPSWC777HLY A Mama

    All I ever wanted growing up, was to become a mother. And I can say that I LOVE being a mother. But I do agee, there are always days that you just want to cry, you feel overwhelmed and tired and weak and weary and wonder to yourself “I wanted this?? What was I thinking?”. LOL. And I’ve come to realize that those are the days I most need to give it to Jesus. He is always there for me, I just have to remember to ASK for help. This blog, this series has blessed me so much. To know I am NOT alone (other mothers feeling the same way), it is such a comfort. Life is not perfect… and it does not always turn out how we thought it would. But the more I give my life to God, the more at peace I am with life and the craziness of being a mom, wife, housekeeper etc.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/YN7JUR4UX7SYDHKEPSWC777HLY A Mama

    another thought – I like the thought of “seasons” because it is so true. My husband and I often say “some day we will miss this” when we are feeling tired, overwhelmed and weary. It is a verbal reminder to us that our season with young children may be difficult at times but someday we will wish we had these days back. I see so many friends and acquaintances going on vacations/trips (many alone while leaving their young children in the care of others). And my hubby and I just cannot relate. We say “this is our season of being parents, we wanted this, we asked for this and it is simply NOT about us right now, it is about your children”. I think many people forget that in this day and age, instead focusing on “me” and “my wants”. It saddens me. Right now is my “season of motherhood” and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!