“Grow them up in the clean air of gospel living. Your testimony to the gospel in the little details of your life is more valuable to them than you can imagine.” -Rachel Jankovic
I want to grow my kids up in the clean air of gospel mothering.
I want, no I need, to be daily reminded that I am and can be full of grace because of the amazing grace that has been given to me. ”For it is by grace that you are saved and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8
When I fail again, yell again, am grumpy again, it is so freeing that I do not have to wallow in my mistakes and assume that is where I will always be. I can rest knowing I am forgiven and that I can get up, get grace, and start again. It gives hope to the worn-out, tired mother (like me)!
And when I understand the gospel in my daily life, I pass it on to my children.
Grace doesn’t mean they get away with everything.Grace doesn’t mean that there aren’t consequences.Grace doesn’t mean they are not held to a high standard. It means that in all I do and say to them in their life, I want them to know that it is by grace they are saved and not through their works.
And when they mess up, I want to lead them to the Cross. Lead them to the One who paid the price for their sins, to help them to understand that not one of us could stand without that grace. I want them to understand that it isn’t a try harder, do better, pull yourself up by your bootstraps life, it is a receiving and acting in thankfulness life.
But first I have to understand it myself.
It means that in the moment when they fail, I can draw on the grace I have been given to come alongside of them. I can let them know that I still love and approve of them, give them a hug, and then meter out their consequence.
For the longest time, I thought there were two types of parents; the disciplinarians (the good parents with obedient children), and the grace givers (the parents who let their kids get away with everything and had crazy wild children).
Now I realize that the true grace-full mama is intent on training with grace. Truth and love.
She is full of grace, but she isn’t wishy-washy. She is full of grace, but she doesn’t look away from sin. She is full of grace, but she is working hard to see that her children, if they are saved, are in the process of sanctification.
She is right there delving into the heart issues, understand the root of the problem or sin, right there in the midst of the mess, training and disciplining her kids while leading them to the Cross.
“Parenting with grace isn’t another set of rules for you to follow. It’s a story that you’re rejoicing in. Share the story with your children. Show them the Savior. Show them Jesus. Dazzle them with His love.” -Elyse Fitzpatrick, Give them Grace
Are you with me?
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