Time for Blogging

Last year, I quit blogging.  Altogether. {At my former blog.}

And it was glorious. Beautiful. Relaxing.  I had hours back I had never had before, and my stress level went way down. And then I felt the Lord guiding me to begin a new blog, one that would be a fresh, clean start. I wrestled and prayed about the idea for a few months, and finally said yes to the Lord.  Thus, Grace Full Mama was born and launched.

However, as I came back to this world we call blog-land, I wanted to do it responsibly. Christin posted about the ebook, Simple Blogging, and I bought it right away. I came away from that book with a vision and a plan.  A way for my blog to fit into my life, and not the other way around.

I made a plan for myself, guard rails, if you will.  

First, here’s my vision and purpose:

To use my story and my words to bring glory to Jesus Christ, to use blogging as my way to make art for the glory of His name, and to encourage and inspire moms in their job of mothering. 

And, vision for the way I blog:

To enjoy life and always put my family first.

I decided before I ever started that I would limit my online time severely, and that I would only post 3 -4 times a week.  I made that commitment to myself ahead of time, because I know how easy it is to get sucked into the vortex of blogging and social media!

And my schedule is a nutshell is this:

Monday- Friday-

-30 minutes in early AM to check Facebook, Twitter, comments, and email

-1 hour during kids rest time to work on editing posts {Thursday I have 1 hour 30 minutes cause older kids are at music class}

-10 minutes at night to do Facebook and Twitter {since it’s AM in the States}

Saturday morning-

-3 hours to write all posts for the upcoming week, including guest posts, etc. {my hubby works on Saturdays, and so I have someone who watches my kiddos during this time} The deal with the kids is that if I can have these 3 hours in the early AM to get my blog work done, then the rest of the day is theirs and we all go do something fun.

Sundays-

off completely

Now, this might seem like a lot, but it goes by quick.  I have to be very intentional to fit in all that I need to accomplish in this time. But I wouldn’t want it any other way.

The other thing that I have done is enlist another blogger to keep me accountable.  We email each other our schedule about once a week.  Knowing that someone will be asking helps keep my computer time in check!

Dear, sweet Laura Booz has written an excellent ebook on this very topic, Blogger Behave, and I highly recommend you get a hold of it.  She lays out some really practical ideas on how to love your life and blogging.  I came away from it challenged, refreshed, and excited.  I am sure you will as well. Here is the seriously adorable video she made for her book:

Email readers click here to see the video.

I am excited because all this week Laura will be doing a series at Sarah Mae’s blog on this very topic:
I hope you will join in!

Do you have limits for yourself and the computer? What are they? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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49 Comments
  • http://fruitinseason.blogspot.com Christine- Fruit in Season

    Thank you for posting your schedule and commitment! I came back after a hiatus with better focus too. I need to check out those ebooks- I have heard such great things about them both! I’m so glad you entered this land again- we missed you! xoxo

  • http://thepoorganiclife.com Katrina Ryder

    Great schedule! I need something like that . . . PLUS I need to cut out the 9 million times a day I check back to see if a post has any comments. Uggh! It’s so embarrassing to confess that. ;)

  • Anonymous

    I love this!! I so needed to see this and I hope to implement a system of my own!!
    Thank you sister friend!!!

  • http://twitter.com/moretobe Lisa

    Joy, I’m so glad you shared this post. We’ve had similar journeys. For me, the end of the first phase of blogging came at a time when God was weeding my life from spindly branches. Although Extravagant Grace was such a joy, it was energy depleting and distracting me from my family and being present in real life.

    The “almost” year away was so refreshing! I’m back now, at More to Be, but this isn’t just about blogging and personal satisfaction this time. More to Be has vision, purpose, core values, and goals. It is an extension of my “in real life ministry,” which is 100% blessed and supported by my family. And yet, the issue of boundaries is just as important. I appreciate your example and might very well put some of those ideas into place. It is time to pray, think, and chat it up with my husband. Also time to find another blogging accountability partner. That’s a super great idea!

    Thanks so much,
    Lisa

    http://www.moretobe.com

  • http://twitter.com/maymoms Susan

    I’m struggling with time to blog. I’ve been checking email,twitter,fb,reader with my smartphone. When I have time in front of the computer, I went blank, nothing to write. So my blog have been neglected for months. Indeed, real life with our family is much more precious than this online life. Although sometimes I feel the urge to share. But I have so little time to be able to concentrate with blogging… do you have any tips ?

  • Julia

    I feel just like Susan. I really felt led to start a blog but I just never seem to have anything useful to say. OR I have several ideas to share but don’t make the time to write. I will say my sweet husband has offered to watch the kids whatever night a week I choose so I can devote to blogging, but I found out last week we are expecting baby #5 and I am sick and not up to blogging. Maybe after this dreadful part of the pregnancy is over I can do just what hubby has offered…now to find something usual to talk about!

  • http://www.gracetags.com Janelle@GraceTags

    That looks like a really good plan. I currently don’t spend enough time on my blog, I don’t think.

    Janelle

  • http://www.wellfedhomestead.com Brenda

    Hi Joy! This is a great post! I totally agree that a blog-life balance needs to be achieved, and LIFE comes before blog! I wake up pretty early and work on e-mails/checking blogs for 30 min and then the blog for about an hour and a half. I work for about an hour during nap time, and then sometimes after the kids go to bed. It’s a lot though. I’d like to cut back on that a bit (maybe some of that evening time). And I find myself (especially during my Black Friday sale) checking e-mails too often. We all, as a family, praise God when I get sales (it means we’re getting closer and closer to my part-time farmer hubby being a full-time farmer, which is one of our goals and one of the reasons I write). However, I want to watch that. I think today I’m going to keep my laptop out of the kitchen, or at least close down my mail program (I use it to look at recipes, too!). I woke up last night, convicted about this–whatever we idolize, our kids will resent. I don’t want to idolize my blog, my e-mail, my laptop, etc. I grew up having the TV on during dinner, and when I wanted to talk about my day at school, I was told to “shut up” because the news was on. To this day, I hate the news, and I don’t want the TV on in my home. What we spend our time on–what we focus on–what they believe we value more than them–it impacts their life and the life of their children! I want to balance this blog-thing in such a way that my kids know that THEY are way more important to me than anything happening on this machine or in cyber land! :)

  • Anonymous

    Thanks for sharing your schedule! I started my new blog 4 months ago and I am struggling with balance.

  • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

    I should have more definite limits and I don’t. I’m going to implement some immediately. Because I know for a fact I can get everything I need to done in much less time then I spend on the computer.
    Thank you for the mention! I apologize, my blog is going to be down for a day or two due to a domain renewal glitch (not my fault, lol). But, this gives me an opportunity to focus on some other projects this week without feeling overwhelmed! {Thank you, God}!

  • Stacie

    I love this! Right now I only blog when I feel led to – which is most days. I have also decided that I will NOT check email, facebook, twitter, etc, etc… until I have spent quiet time with the Lord. Some days it’s 4:00pm or later before I get on the electronics. But, my time with my Savior is sooo much more important! Thank you for posting this. May God bless you and your blog! ~Stacie (www.discoveringhisgrace.com)

  • Laura

    Seeing your personal schedule is so helpful. Sometimes those glimpses into someone else’s life are all it takes to make good choices for myself and walk in freedom. Thank you for your transparency, Joy! Love you.

  • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

    Yay! My blog is working again! :)

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for that confession, Katrina! It helps the rest of us with the same disorder to feel a little less dysfunctional… ;)

  • http://gracefulabandon.blogspot.com Lisa Grace

    I need better limits and I like your Saturday a.m. time. I don’t have a 3 hour block, but it’s something I’m going to think on. THanks for your transparency!

  • Joy

    Thanks Christine! Yes, I really, really do love those ebooks. I don’t recommend things that I don’t love so you can know that I really do love them. AND, they are NOT affiliate links. I just like to tell people when I love something! :) Have a great day sweet friend!

  • Joy

    I agree with Joseph. It’s freeing when you admit what so many of us are tempted to do. :) I made a commitment that I would NOT open the computer once I have shut it down in the morning until after lunch. The temptation is strong, but once you break the habit, it gets easier I promise!!!!!! You are not alone!! :)

  • Joy

    You are so welcome sweet Kristi!!

  • Joy

    Lisa, Thanks for sharing your journey!! I love to hear about your passion for your site and ministry.
    Yes, the accountability partner has been a God send, really. Since she is doing the same kind of stuff that I am, with blogging, we understand and are able to ask the hard questions! :)
    Have a great day and let me know what boundaries you decide on!! Blessings!!

  • Joy

    Susan, that is where my Saturday morning time comes in. During the week, I keep a list of anything that comes to mind that I might want to write about, silly, stupid, or otherwise. :) I pray over those ideas during the week and then usually by Saturday I have a pretty good idea of what I want to write about.
    Then on Saturday, I FORCE myself to write. I just start writing. I don’t always feel inspired, I don’t always want to do it, I’d rather stay in bed, sip coffee, or just be generally lazy. BUT, I know that I want to keep blogging, and in order to do that I need to be disciplined to sit down and actually write. Writing a week or two in advance has helped me take the pressure off and helped me to enjoy blogging and not let it consume me. I am NOT an organized person by nature, and when I blogged before, I would wait until the day of and try to come up with something interesting to say. I was always stressed and really not putting out that great of content most days {not that I necessarily am now, but at least I’ve had the time to look it over before it goes live}.
    Does that help at all??

  • Joy

    Julia,
    Congrats!! Oh yes, I am sure you don’t feel up to blogging right now. :) You can read my response to Susan, and see if any of that might work for you. And, for me, I decided that my writing time had to be in the morning, otherwise, if I waited until night my brain was too dead to write anything worthwhile, be creative, or stick with it. But that’s just me, maybe you are a night-time girl! :)

  • Joy

    It’s a commitment, to be sure. But, I decided I wanted to put out content 3-4 days a week and this was the times that I came up with. I hope you find your sweet spot! :)

  • http://yourthrivingfamily.blogspot.com/ Sara@YrThrivinFamily

    This is great! I just started REALLY getting into the blogging world a couple months ago. (I Started when both my son and I were sick for about a week so I had TONS of nothing time.) It quickly overtook everything. Figuring out what I was doing, joining groups, setting up accounts – the dreaded networking. It was only this last week that I was at the point where I felt established and “in the groove”. And found that I COULD limit my time.
    I love that you posted your schedule and will be adapting it for me! yourthrivingfamily.com

  • amy anderson

    I don’t have limits, but I need them as I’m telling my girls to do their homework while I’m doing “mine!” (pinterest, facebook..Graceful Mama!! xo!) But I do get some good ideas of things to do WITH my babies from these sites. I have cut down a little on online shopping, but I still do it to find craft supplies etc so I don’t waste more time running us around town. So, I think more limits can be set…but some of this computer time is better than I thought. HOWEVER, this is all a good reminder to me to PRIORITIZE and FAMILY FIRST!! Thank you sweet Joy! xo!

  • Cafe Au Leftie

    Thank you so much for sharing this Joy! Very helpful and encouraging.

  • http://myevidentfaith.com/ Lori

    What an informative post! Well written and wonderful to hear it can be done! I’m also glad to see your endorsement of the ebook, Simple Blogging. I just read about that somewhere else yesterday and was wondering if it truly was worth the read. Glad to have found your blog!

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  • Diane Shiffer

    I gave up blogging a few months ago for many of the same reasons you shared… but I went to the Relevant conference anyway, and I am so glad I did! I came home with such a peace about my blogging and with the assurance that He could use my efforts in the lives of my readers (all 3.7 of ‘em!) That said, I have a long way to go in this taming of the beast… I spend wayayay too much time attending to things online. I used to be so good and so disciplined, and I need to get back to the boundaries that served me so well…. pray for me?

  • http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/a-crocodile-under-the-bed/ Blue Cotton Memory

    I have a mission statement for my blog – and all my content lines up with that mission statement (guard rails) – that really helps keep me focused. Fortunately, my boys are older (some out of the nest) and writing fills those empty time spaces children leave behind as they become bigger and more independent.

  • Joy

    Hey Brenda!! Thanks so much for commenting!! You know at Relevant I talked with several people whose blogs are a source of income. I think when it is a source of income it will need to take more time than your average hobby/ministry blogger like me. Crystal from Money Saving Mom and Tsh from Simple Mom both have to spend more time on their blogs because they are big money makers….but they both still really do it with integrity. They have strict online budgets for themselves and stick to it. I just want to encourage you that it is ok to spend a little more time if you are using it to make money and there are really godly women who do that and do it well….and I’m sure you are one of them too!! I love ya Brenda and I think you are amazing!! Your website is awesome and you are so good at it!!
    Have a great day friend!!

  • Joy

    It takes a while to find your sweet spot. :) I would just encourage you to go into your week with a plan and stick to it…that’s the best place to start! Have a great day!

  • Joy

    Christin, I think we have all struggled with that from time to time! :) It is hard to stay focused on the blog and writing instead of all the other stuff. I’m so glad your blog is back up and running YAY!!
    It seemed like there were several that were down yesterday…any idea why?!

  • Joy

    Stacie,
    YES! Spending time with the Lord first is so important!! I completely agree with you! For me, it is God’s Word first and exercise second, then computer! Thanks for sharing! We all need the encouragement!

  • Joy

    Laura, You are just doing an awesome job this week. You are pulling back the veil and exposing some hard stuff. I am praying for you this week and I know that God will use you in this!! Thanks, friend!

  • Joy

    Ya know, I highly recommend the 3 hour block. It has made my whole week so much more peaceful. Knowing that I have a chunk of time to sit down and write makes everything seem so much more doable! Thanks!

  • Joy

    Good to hear that you are seeing some light at the end of that tunnel!! I pray that you will find your perfect schedule, one that will work for you and your family! Blessings to you today!!

  • Joy

    Thanks for commenting Amy! Yes, the computer can also be a time saver, can’t it?! That’s a good perspective! Yes, in the end, it is all about making sure that we are caring for our families the way they need! Thanks!!

  • Joy

    You are welcome!

  • Joy

    Yep, Lori, I did really love the book and none of my links are affiliate links and I bought both books I recommended myself, so you can know it is my real, true, honest opinion! :)

  • Joy

    Praying for you right now….we all need prayer in this area. We all need that accountability! Thanks for being honest, Diane.

  • Frugalflamingo

    Thanks for sharing this again. I heard you share this at Relevant and it was so helpful. I have been blogging for years but for the 1st time I am trying to do it with more intentionality. It is hard because I either swing one way or the other. Sometimes I am blogging 2 or 3 times a day and then I will skip 5. So much of my emotions drives blogging…which it should not. I like that you shared in the comments to someone else that you don’t always feel like doing it. That makes me feel better because when I don’t feel like blogging I assume that it is because I should not be blogging anymore. Love the block of time idea!! I want to incorporate that soon!

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  • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

    Love this schedule idea! It’s so easy to be sucked in. I’m a social media marketing manager, so if I’m not careful, it can consume my life. Thanks for some great tips.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks for this post! I am new to the blogging thing but I am loving it. I have realized quick that I need to limit my time. Right now it is ccard because I feel like I have so much I want to write and say and it takes so much time to write out and format (and get pictures etc). I also need computer time (away from the kids and homeschooling) to do the book work for our businesses (because we are self employed). I have the time after lunch as ‘mommy’s work time’ until 1 and then after I do a reading class with them and read to them they have a ‘quiet time’ where I work until 2:30. Then I work after they go to bed. … It is hard when I am home all day and the computer is right there not to try and be on more, but limits help me keep my priorities set.

  • http://godsgracefulness.com godsgracefulness.com

    Thank you for this.
    I am struggling right now. I am all so new to this. I glean from Courtney at Living Well and wonder how she does it all. We have only spoken twice but she is encouraged me.
    With the way my blog is growing, I feel immense pressure. What I mean is that I feel like I need to “constantly” post so people can read and read and read. :( Oh the battle.

  • http://twitter.com/adventuroo Melissa Culbertson

    I love this! I am in marketing consulting so I do online work for my clients. I also have two blogs: Adventuroo and Momcomm. Last year it got to be too much. When my dad died in December, it made me really evaluate why I was spending so much time online and I vowed to live 2012 with one word in mind: SIMPLIFY.

    I’m moving to 1 Twitter account, dropping the number of posts I do each week and stuff like that to simplify my online presence. I want to feel nothing but love for blogging, not feel like a slave to it. Thanks for a great post!

  • http://hikingtowardhome.com/ Sharon@HikingTowardHome

    wow. I really needed to read this today. ‘… because when I don’t feel like blogging I assume that it is because I should not be blogging anymore.”

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